What to say? when to say it? How to say it? and to whom?
Context
Formal? Informal?
Ms ? Mrs. ? Miss ?
Professor?
Doctor?
First name?
Last name?
Nick name?
Humor? sarcasm?
Rude? Polite? Kiss ass disgusting?
Brown nose?
It is one thing to know how to say something in theory - but the actual play by play can be much more challenging
People on the autism spectrum have trouble with making good decisions about interactions with others.
Doctor Melvin Levin wrote this book called Jarvis Clutch - Social Spy which is about how to get along socially.
Jarvis observes people and he and the doc talk aboutwhat actions get what results and what is appropriate
It makes very explicit things that are usually implict and seldom discussed.
it is probably a lot more than most college grad students need to know but it would be very helpful for younger students trying to figure out the american social scene
It talks about code switching.
The doc defines this as adjusting the words that you use and the way that you speak depending on whim you are speaking to.
Jarvis says it is fitting the stiff you say with the people you are around.
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The book sounds really interesting! I was barely taught about how to socially interact when i was learning English at school, so this is somehow one of the hardest parts for me and i believe for many EFL students as well if language teachers do not at least direct their intention to the issue.
Do you have the book with you now?
As you know that I stay with an American host family now, it is definitely a good chance to expose me to enter the deepr American culture. However, I have a difficulty to interact with American cultures, especially I don't really share my feeling or opinions much on matters. I know that is the way I was taught but I also think that I'll be learning more and getting a balance as the time goes.
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